FUNERALS

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 Dear Family Members:

The death of a loved one is a time of great sadness and personal grief. As you make all the preparations for the funeral, we at Our Lady of Good Counsel are here to help and assist you in planning the Mass of Christian Burial.

On this webpage there are suggested hymns and readings for the Funeral Mass, which will assist you in making your choices. Please download the Liturgy Planning Guide to help you with your selections. Our Consolation Ministry representative, Mary Szmutko will contact you to meet with you, to assist and finalize the funeral liturgy.  

All parishioners are welcome to Pre-plan a Funeral Mass using the Liturgy Planning Guide link.  This Planning Guide may be added to your important papers for when it is needed.

Please be assured of our support and prayers for you as well as your loved one.

                                                                                                                     Consolation Ministry


We ask that you contact a Funeral Director before contacting the parish to schedule a funeral. After meeting with the funeral director, the funeral director’s staff will contact Our Lady of Good Counsel to schedule the day and time of the funeral. Once the parish is notified of your family member’s passing, you will receive a call from the Consolation Ministry in order to schedule a convenient time for you to come to the parish to plan the Funeral Liturgy and choose the hymns and readings for this occasion. See the links at the bottom, to assist you in the planning prior to meeting with a parish representative. This will give you more time to reflect on the readings and/or hymns in a timely fashion. Please know that you do not need to complete this before meeting with someone from the parish. This is for your convenience. A representative from the parish will assist you in working through the “Funeral Check List,” and in selecting appropriate hymns and readings.

The Funeral Rite Usually Includes:

  • A Vigil Service (Wake) celebrated in the funeral home or the church. This is a time to gather with family and friends to console us in our grief, give us strength to support one another, and remember the life of the deceased. Therefore, eulogies are encouraged at this time.
  • A Mass of Christian Burial (Funeral Liturgy) is celebrated in the Church. As Catholic Christians, we believe that death is not the end of life. It is therefore appropriate that there be a structured observance (Funeral Rite) for this important event to mark our passing. The funeral liturgy is the central liturgical celebration of the Christian community for the deceased. At the time of death, the Church gathers with the family and friends of the deceased to give thanks to God for Christ’s victory over death, and to commend the deceased to God’s eternal mercy and love.
  • A Rite of Committal (Burial or Interment). This marks the conclusion of the funeral rite. It is normally celebrated at the place of committal, that is, beside the open grave or place of interment. In committing the deceased to their resting place, we express hope that, with all those who have gone before us marked with the sign of faith, the deceased awaits the glory of the resurrection.​

Remembrance
While remembrances are suggested at the wake, they may take place as the funeral Mass begins. It is important that the remembrance be brief (three minutes) and focus on the life and faith of the deceased.

Cremation
Although ordinarily the body is present for a Christian funeral, it is permissible to celebrate the funeral liturgy in the presence of the ashes of the deceased. Placed in a worthy container, the ashes should be reverently buried or entombed within six months after the funeral. Cremated remains should never be scattered or kept in a private residence.

Funeral Offerings
There is a suggested donation of $250 to the Church, a fee of $100 for the organist/cantor and $100 if using the Church for viewing –payment is made by the Funeral Home to the Church and the organist.  In case of a cemetery service only or a service at the funeral home, we suggest a donation of $150 be made directly to the priest or deacon leading the service.

How can I have Masses said for friends, family or deceased loved ones?
To request a Mass for deceased friends, family or loved ones, call the Our Lady of Good Counsel Parish Office at 609-882-3277. Masses are $10 and can usually be scheduled to the requested date.

Funeral Music Selections

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Entrance/Gathering Song (Suggested Music)

Be Not Afraid
Here I Am Lord
On Eagles’ Wings

 

 


Responsorial Psalm – Pick One←

23: Shepherd Me, O God
23: My Shepherd is the Lord
27: The Lord is My Light
91: Be With Me Lord
103: Loving and Forgiving

Offertory/Presentation of the Gifts

Come To Me
We Remember

Communion Song

Amazing Grace
Christ Be Our Light
Eye Has Not Seen
I Am The Bread Of Life
Like A Shepherd
The Supper of the Lord
Taste and See
We Remember

Recessional/Sending Forth

(Note: that many of the Gathering and Presentation songs will also work for Recessional)


Amazing Grace
Be Not Afraid
Here I Am Lord
How Great Thou Art
On Eagles’ Wings

If you would like to include a Catholic Hymn that is not listed above we will check with our Organist to see if it is in her Repertoire. No secular music is permitted. Speak with Mary Szmutko our Consolation Ministry Coordinator at your Liturgy Planning meeting to discuss this.


READINGS

     There is an Old Testament and a New Testament reading. Normally, the priest will choose the gospel, unless you have a recommendation. Give some thought to one or two people who will proclaim the Old and New Testament readings. The priest will read the gospel.


Masses for the Dead – Readings from the Old Testament – Pick one

From the Lectionary for Mass, no. 1011
During Easter Time, the First Reading is instead selected from among certain New Testament Readings.(please see below at very end of page)

2 Maccabees 12:43-46

He acted in an excellent and noble way as he had the resurrection of the dead in view. A reading from the second Book of Maccabees

Judas, the ruler of Israel,
took up a collection among all his soldiers,
amounting to two thousand silver drachmas,
which he sent to Jerusalem to provide for an expiatory sacrifice.
In doing this he acted in a very excellent and noble way,
inasmuch as he had the resurrection of the dead in view;
for if he were not expecting the fallen to rise again,
it would have been useless and foolish to pray for them in death.
But if he did this with a view to the splendid reward
that awaits those who had gone to rest in godliness,
it was a holy and pious thought.
Thus he made atonement for the dead
that they might be freed from this sin.

The word of the Lord.

Job 19:1, 23-27a

I know that my Vindicator lives. A reading from the Book of Job

Job answered Bildad the Shuhite and said:
Oh, would that my words were written down!
Would that they were inscribed in a record:
That with an iron chisel and with lead
they were cut in the rock forever!
But as for me, I know that my Vindicator lives,
and that he will at last stand forth upon the dust;
Whom I myself shall see:
my own eyes, not another’s, shall behold him;
And from my flesh I shall see God;
my inmost being is consumed with longing.

The word of the Lord.

Wisdom 3:1-9 (short form, 3:1-6, 9)

As sacrificial offerings he took them to himself.

  • Omit the words in bolded brackets [ ] for the short form of this reading.

A reading from the Book of Wisdom

The souls of the just are in the hand of God,
and no torment shall touch them.
They seemed, in the view of the foolish, to be dead;
and their passing away was thought an affliction
and their going forth from us, utter destruction.
But they are in peace.
For if before men, indeed they be punished,
yet is their hope full of immortality;
Chastised a little, they shall be greatly blessed,
because God tried them
and found them worthy of himself.
As gold in the furnace, he proved them,
and as sacrificial offerings he took them to himself.
[In the time of their visitation they shall shine,
and shall dart about as sparks through stubble;
They shall judge nations and rule over peoples,
and the LORD shall be their King forever.]
Those who trust in him shall understand truth,
and the faithful shall abide with him in love:
Because grace and mercy are with his holy ones,
and his care is with his elect.

The word of the Lord.

Wisdom 4:7-15

An unsullied life, the attainment of old age. A reading from the Book of Wisdom

The just man, though he die early,
shall be at rest.
For the age that is honorable comes not
with the passing of time,
nor can it be measured in terms of years.
Rather, understanding is the hoary crown for men,
and an unsullied life, the attainment of old age.
He who pleased God was loved;
he who lived among sinners was transported–
Snatched away, lest wickedness pervert his mind
or deceit beguile his soul;
For the witchery of paltry things obscures what is right
and the whirl of desire transforms the innocent mind.
Having become perfect in a short while,
he reached the fullness of a long career;
for his soul was pleasing to the LORD,
therefore he sped him out of the midst of wickedness.
But the people saw and did not understand,
nor did they take this into account.

The word of the Lord.

Isaiah 25:6a, 7-9

He will destroy death forever. A reading from the Book of the Prophet Isaiah

On this mountain the LORD of hosts
will provide for all peoples.
On this mountain he will destroy
the veil that veils all peoples,
The web that is woven over all nations;
he will destroy death forever.
The Lord GOD will wipe away
the tears from all faces;
The reproach of his people he will remove
from the whole earth; for the LORD has spoken.

On that day it will be said:
“Behold our God, to whom we looked to save us!
This is the LORD for whom we looked;
let us rejoice and be glad that he has saved us!”

The word of the Lord.

Lamentations 3:17-26

It is good to hope in silence for the saving help of the Lord. A reading from the Book of Lamentations

My soul is deprived of peace,
I have forgotten what happiness is;
I tell myself my future is lost,
all that I hoped for from the LORD.
The thought of my homeless poverty
is wormwood and gall;
Remembering it over and over
leaves my soul downcast within me.
But I will call this to mind,
as my reason to have hope:

The favors of the LORD are not exhausted,
his mercies are not spent;
They are renewed each morning,
so great is his faithfulness.
My portion is the LORD, says my soul;
therefore will I hope in him.

Good is the LORD to one who waits for him,
to the soul that seeks him;
It is good to hope in silence
for the saving help of the LORD.

The word of the Lord.

Daniel 12:1-3

Many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake. A reading from the Book of the Prophet Daniel

In those days, I, Daniel, mourned
and heard this word of the Lord:
At that time there shall arise
Michael, the great prince,
guardian of your people;
It shall be a time unsurpassed in distress
since nations began until that time.
At that time your people shall escape,
everyone who is found written in the book.

Many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake;
Some shall live forever,
others shall be an everlasting horror and disgrace.
But the wise shall shine brightly
like the splendor of the firmament,
And those who lead the many to justice
shall be like the stars forever.

The word of the Lord.


 

Masses for the Dead – Readings from the New Testament – Pick one

From the Lectionary for Mass, no. 1014

Romans 5:5-11

Since we are now justified by his Blood, we will be saved through him from the wrath. A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans

Brothers and sisters:
Hope does not disappoint,
because the love of God has been poured out into our hearts
through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
For Christ, while we were still helpless,
died at the appointed time for the ungodly.
Indeed, only with difficulty does one die for a just person,
though perhaps for a good person
one might even find courage to die.
But God proves his love for us
in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us.
How much more then, since we are now justified by his Blood,
will we be saved through him from the wrath.
Indeed, if, while we were enemies,
we were reconciled to God through the death of his Son,
how much more, once reconciled,
will we be saved by his life.
Not only that,
but we also boast of God through our Lord Jesus Christ,
through whom we have now received reconciliation.

The word of the Lord.

Romans 5:17-21

Where sin increased, grace overflowed all the more.
A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans

Brothers and sisters:
If, by the transgression of the one,
death came to reign through that one,
how much more will those who receive the abundance of grace
and of the gift of justification
come to reign in life through the one Jesus Christ.
In conclusion, just as through one transgression
condemnation came upon all,
so, through one righteous act,
acquittal and life came to all.
For just as through the disobedience of the one man
the many were made sinners,
so through the obedience of the one
the many will be made righteous.
The law entered in so that transgression might increase
but, where sin increased, grace overflowed all the more, so that,
as sin reigned in death,
grace also might reign through justification for eternal life
through Jesus Christ our Lord.

The word of the Lord.

Romans 6:3-9 (short form, 6:3-4, 8-9)

We too might live in newness of life.

  • Omit the words in bolded brackets [ ] for the short form of this reading.

A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans

Brothers and sisters:
Are you unaware that we who were baptized into Christ Jesus
were baptized into his death?
We were indeed buried with him through baptism into death,
so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead
by the glory of the Father,
we too might live in newness of life.

[For if we have grown into union with him through a death like his,
we shall also be united with him in the resurrection.
We know that our old self was crucified with him,
so that our sinful body might be done away with,
that we might no longer be in slavery to sin.
For a dead person has been absolved from sin.]
If, then, we have died with Christ,
we believe that we shall also live with him.
We know that Christ, raised from the dead, dies no more;
death no longer has power over him.

The word of the Lord.

Romans 8:14-23

We also groan within ourselves as we wait for adoption, the redemption of our bodies. A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans

Brothers and sisters:
Those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.
For you did not receive a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear,
but you received a spirit of adoption,
through which we cry, Abba, “Father!”
The Spirit itself bears witness with our spirit
that we are children of God,
and if children, then heirs,
heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ,
if only we suffer with him
so that we may also be glorified with him.

I consider that the sufferings of this present time are as nothing
compared with the glory to be revealed for us.
For creation awaits with eager expectation
the revelation of the children of God;
for creation was made subject to futility,
not of its own accord but because of the one who subjected it,
in hope that creation itself
would be set free from slavery to corruption
and share in the glorious freedom of the children of God.
We know that all creation is groaning in labor pains even until now;
and not only that, but we ourselves,
who have the first fruits of the Spirit,
we also groan within ourselves
as we wait for adoption, the redemption of our bodies.

The word of the Lord.

Romans 8:31b-35, 37-39

What will separate us from the love of Christ?A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans

Brothers and sisters:
If God is for us, who can be against us?
He did not spare his own Son
but handed him over for us all,
will he not also give us everything else along with him?
Who will bring a charge against God’s chosen ones?
It is God who acquits us.
Who will condemn?
It is Christ Jesus who died, rather, was raised,
who also is at the right hand of God,
who indeed intercedes for us.
What will separate us from the love of Christ?
Will anguish, or distress or persecution, or famine,
or nakedness, or peril, or the sword?

No, in all these things, we conquer overwhelmingly
through him who loved us.
For I am convinced that neither death, nor life,
nor angels, nor principalities,
nor present things, nor future things,
nor powers, nor height, nor depth,
nor any other creature will be able to separate us
from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

The word of the Lord.

Romans 14:7-9, 10c-12

Whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s. A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans

Brothers and sisters:
No one lives for oneself,
and no one dies for oneself.
For if we live, we live for the Lord,
and if we die, we die for the Lord;
so then, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s.
For this is why Christ died and came to life,
that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living.
Why then do you judge your brother?
Or you, why do you look down on your brother?
For we shall all stand before the judgment seat of God;
for it is written:

     As I live, says the Lord, every knee
shall bend before me,
and every tongue shall give praise to God.

So then each of us shall give an accounting of himself to God.

The word of the Lord.

1 Corinthians 15:20-28 (short form, 15:20-23)

So too in Christ shall all be brought to life.

  • Omit the words in bolded brackets [ ] for the short form of this reading.

A reading from the first Letter of Saint Paul to the Corinthians

Brothers and sisters:
Christ has been raised from the dead,
the first fruits of those who have fallen asleep.
For since death came through a man,
the resurrection of the dead came also through man.
For just as in Adam all die,
so too in Christ shall all be brought to life,
but each one in proper order:
Christ the first fruits;
then, at his coming, those who belong to Christ;
[then comes the end,
when he hands over the Kingdom to his God and Father.
For he must reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet.
The last enemy to be destroyed is death,
for “he subjected everything under his feet.”
But when it says that everything has been subjected,
it is clear that it excludes the one who subjected everything to him.
When everything is subjected to him,
then the Son himself will also be subjected
to the one who subjected everything to him,
so that God may be all in all.]

The word of the Lord.

1 Corinthians 15:51-57

Death is swallowed up in victory. A reading from the first Letter of Saint Paul to the Corinthians

Brothers and sisters:
Behold, I tell you a mystery.
We shall not all fall asleep, but we will all be changed,
in an instant, in the blink of an eye, at the last trumpet.
For the trumpet will sound,
the dead will be raised incorruptible,
and we shall be changed.
For that which is corruptible must clothe itself with incorruptibility,
and that which is mortal must clothe itself with immortality.
And when this which is corruptible clothes itself with incorruptibility
and this which is mortal clothes itself with immortality,
then the word that is written shall come about:

     Death is swallowed up in victory.
Where, O death, is your victory?
Where, O death, is your sting?

The sting of death is sin,
and the power of sin is the law.
But thanks be to God who gives us the victory
through our Lord Jesus Christ.

The word of the Lord.

2 Corinthians 4:14—5:1

What is seen is transitory, but what is unseen is eternal. A reading from the second Letter of Saint Paul to the Corinthians

Brothers and sisters:
Knowing that the One who raised the Lord Jesus
will raise us also with Jesus
and place us with you in his presence.
Everything indeed is for you,
so that the grace bestowed in abundance on more and more people
may cause the thanksgiving to overflow for the glory of God.
Therefore, we are not discouraged;
rather, although our outer self is wasting away,
our inner self is being renewed day by day.
For this momentary light affliction
is producing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison,
as we look not to what is seen but to what is unseen;
for what is seen is transitory, but what is unseen is eternal.

For we know that if our earthly dwelling, a tent,
should be destroyed,
we have a building from God,
a dwelling not made with hands, eternal in heaven.

The word of the Lord.

2 Corinthians 5:1, 6-10

We have a building from God, eternal in heaven. A reading from the second Letter of Saint Paul to the Corinthians

Brothers and sisters:
We know that if our earthly dwelling, a tent,
should be destroyed,
we have a building from God,
a dwelling not made with hands,
eternal in heaven.

We are always courageous,
although we know that while we are at home in the body
we are away from the Lord,
for we walk by faith, not by sight.
Yet we are courageous,
and we would rather leave the body and go home to the Lord.
Therefore, we aspire to please him,
whether we are at home or away.
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ,
so that each may receive recompense,
according to what he did in the body, whether good or evil.

The word of the Lord.

Philippians 3:20-21

He will change our lowly bodies to conform to his glory. A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Philippians

Brothers and sisters:
Our citizenship is in heaven,
and from it we also await a savior, the Lord Jesus Christ.
He will change our lowly body
to conform with his glorified Body
by the power that enables him also
to bring all things into subjection to himself.

The word of the Lord.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18

Thus we shall always be with the Lord.  A reading from the first Letter of Saint Paul to the Thessalonians

We do not want you to be unaware, brothers and sisters,
about those who have fallen asleep,
so that you may not grieve like the rest, who have no hope.
For if we believe that Jesus died and rose,
so too will God, through Jesus,
bring with him those who have fallen asleep.
Indeed, we tell you this, on the word of the Lord,
that we who are alive,
who are left until the coming of the Lord,
will surely not precede those who have fallen asleep.
For the Lord himself, with a word of command,
with the voice of an archangel and with the trumpet of God,
will come down from heaven,
and the dead in Christ will rise first.
Then we who are alive, who are left,
will be caught up together with them in the clouds
to meet the Lord in the air.
Thus we shall always be with the Lord.
Therefore, console one another with these words.

The word of the Lord.

2 Timothy 2:8-13

If we have died with him we shall also live with him.  A reading from the second Letter of Saint Paul to Timothy

Beloved:
Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead, a descendant of David:
such is my Gospel, for which I am suffering,
even to the point of chains, like a criminal.
But the word of God is not chained.
Therefore, I bear with everything for the sake of those who are chosen,
so that they too may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus,
together with eternal glory.
This saying is trustworthy:
If we have died with him
we shall also live with him;
if we persevere
we shall also reign with him.
But if we deny him
he will deny us.
If we are unfaithful
he remains faithful,
for he cannot deny himself.

The word of the Lord.

1 John 3:1-2

We shall see him as he is.  A reading from the first Letter of Saint John

Beloved:
See what love the Father has bestowed on us
that we may be called the children of God.
Yet so we are.
The reason the world does not know us
is that it did not know him.
Beloved, we are God’s children now;
what we shall be has not yet been revealed.
We do know that when it is revealed we shall be like him,
for we shall see him as he is.

The word of the Lord.

1 John 3:14-16

We know that we have passed from death to life because we love our brothers.  A reading from the first Letter of Saint John

Beloved:
We know that we have passed from death to life
because we love our brothers.
Whoever does not love remains in death.
Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer,
and you know that no murderer has eternal life remaining in him.
The way we came to know love
was that he laid down his life for us;
so we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

The word of the Lord.


Masses for the Dead – Readings from the New Testament during Easter Time

From the Lectionary for Mass, no. 1012

Only these readings may be selected as the First Reading during Easter Time.

Acts 10:34-43 (short form, 10:34-36, 42-43)

He is the one appointed by God as judge of the living and the dead.

  • Omit the words in bolded brackets [ ] for the short form of this reading

A reading from the Acts of the Apostles

Peter proceeded to speak, saying:
“In truth, I see that God shows no partiality.
Rather, in every nation whoever fears him and acts uprightly
is acceptable to him.
You know the word that he sent to the children of Israel
as he proclaimed peace through Jesus Christ, who is Lord of all,
[what has happened all over Judea,
beginning in Galilee after the baptism
that John preached,
how God anointed Jesus of Nazareth
with the Holy Spirit and power.
He went about doing good
and healing all those oppressed by the Devil,
for God was with him.
We are witnesses of all that he did
both in the country of the Jews and in Jerusalem.
They put him to death by hanging him on a tree.
This man God raised on the third day and granted that he be visible,
not to all the people, but to us,
the witnesses chosen by God in advance,
who ate and drank with him after he rose from the dead.]
He commissioned us to preach to the people
and testify that he is the one appointed by God
as judge of the living and the dead.
To him all the prophets bear witness,
that everyone who believes in him
will receive forgiveness of sins through his name.”

The word of the Lord.

Revelation 14:13

Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord.  A reading from the Book of Revelation

I, John, heard a voice from heaven say, “Write this:
Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.”
“Yes,” said the Spirit,
“let them find rest from their labors,
for their works accompany them.”

The word of the Lord.

Revelation 20:11—21:1

The dead were judged according to their deeds.  A reading from the Book of Revelation

 

I, John, saw a large white throne and the one who was sitting on it.
The earth and the sky fled from his presence
and there was no place for them.
I saw the dead, the great and the lowly, standing before the throne,
and scrolls were opened.
Then another scroll was opened, the book of life.
The dead were judged according to their deeds,
by what was written in the scrolls.
The sea gave up its dead;
then Death and Hades gave up their dead.
All the dead were judged according to their deeds.
Then Death and Hades were thrown into the pool of fire.
(This pool of fire is the second death.)
Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life
was thrown into the pool of fire.
Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth.
The former heaven and the former earth had passed away,
and the sea was no more.

The word of the Lord.

Revelation 21:1-5a, 6b-7

There shall be no more death.  A reading from the Book of Revelation

I, John, saw a new heaven and a new earth.
The former heaven and the former earth had passed away,
and the sea was no more.
I also saw the holy city, a new Jerusalem,
coming down out of heaven from God,
prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.
I heard a loud voice from the throne saying,
“Behold, God’s dwelling is with the human race.
He will dwell with them and they will be his people
and God himself will always be with them as their God.
He will wipe every tear from their eyes,
and there shall be no more death or mourning, wailing or pain,
for the old order has passed away.”

The One who sat on the throne said,
“Behold, I make all things new.”
I am the Alpha and the Omega,
the beginning and the end.
To the thirsty I will give a gift
from the spring of life-giving water.
The victor will inherit these gifts,
and I shall be his God,
and he will be my son.”

The word of the Lord.


 

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